Beautiful article! I really appreciate how well thought out you are, logical, and grounded. While things do get more challenging and complicated as your children get older, you’re off to a great start, and with Siyata D’shmaya, you will continue to reap nachas from your children. Good luck!
Great points about the perils of overindulging kids and putting them in opulent environments. I run into similar problems just taking my kids to an all-you-can-eat buffet! But I think you might be undervaluing the pros of being in an all-inclusive resort. Both your kids were sick, and you were able to give your undivided attention to them instead of splitting your attention between parenting, cooking, cleaning, and grocery shopping. Overindulgence is a definite problem on a certain kind of vacation, but having your cleaning and all your meals provided by someone else can be such a blessing when looking after sick children.
I agree with this balanced view. While it's true we shouldn't over-indulge our kids regularly, sometimes they act out because they're out of their normal environment and over-stimulated. It doesn't automatically mean a vacation like that is a negative thing, as long as they are understanding this is not normal life. Yours being so young still, sick and cranky - you didn't feel interested in what there was to do - all probably soured the trip for you. I honestly don't think it's a problem to take the kids on a nice vacation now and then. Although personally, I'm glad we don't have wealth where we'd live like that all the time.
100% You can't just expect 18 to be a magical number your children just magically change when they turn that age. You can't do everything for your children and then wonder why they didn't just start doing it themselves.
I plan to teach my children how to cook, get them to clean their own toys, dishes, washing clothes. I want my children to know how to take care of themselves and help me around the home.
Thank you for the thoughtful reflection, Abby 🩵 I notice the same behavior changes with my young kids in similar situations. It's definitely a relief when we return to our regular routine and the temporary nature of these changes becomes clear lol it really reinforces the commitment to nurturing a home environment that supports the children's growth and learning in a way that aligns with our values. It can be challenging at times (like, should i reconsider this lol!), but ultimately feels very worthwhile. I'm looking forward to reading your next post!
Beautiful article! I really appreciate how well thought out you are, logical, and grounded. While things do get more challenging and complicated as your children get older, you’re off to a great start, and with Siyata D’shmaya, you will continue to reap nachas from your children. Good luck!
Thank you for the kind words!
Great points about the perils of overindulging kids and putting them in opulent environments. I run into similar problems just taking my kids to an all-you-can-eat buffet! But I think you might be undervaluing the pros of being in an all-inclusive resort. Both your kids were sick, and you were able to give your undivided attention to them instead of splitting your attention between parenting, cooking, cleaning, and grocery shopping. Overindulgence is a definite problem on a certain kind of vacation, but having your cleaning and all your meals provided by someone else can be such a blessing when looking after sick children.
I agree with this balanced view. While it's true we shouldn't over-indulge our kids regularly, sometimes they act out because they're out of their normal environment and over-stimulated. It doesn't automatically mean a vacation like that is a negative thing, as long as they are understanding this is not normal life. Yours being so young still, sick and cranky - you didn't feel interested in what there was to do - all probably soured the trip for you. I honestly don't think it's a problem to take the kids on a nice vacation now and then. Although personally, I'm glad we don't have wealth where we'd live like that all the time.
Excellent insight. Children are malleable. For good or ill.
I, too must re-tool myself after a bout of luxury.
100% You can't just expect 18 to be a magical number your children just magically change when they turn that age. You can't do everything for your children and then wonder why they didn't just start doing it themselves.
I plan to teach my children how to cook, get them to clean their own toys, dishes, washing clothes. I want my children to know how to take care of themselves and help me around the home.
Great article!! Thank you for sharing. Just curious, how did your younger son get e-coli?
He ate strawberries at a u-pick before we washed them 😭
Thank you for the thoughtful reflection, Abby 🩵 I notice the same behavior changes with my young kids in similar situations. It's definitely a relief when we return to our regular routine and the temporary nature of these changes becomes clear lol it really reinforces the commitment to nurturing a home environment that supports the children's growth and learning in a way that aligns with our values. It can be challenging at times (like, should i reconsider this lol!), but ultimately feels very worthwhile. I'm looking forward to reading your next post!